You do not need to write a formal letter to end your relationship with your buyer’s agent. How much effort you want to spend sugarcoating your rejection is up to you.
If you’d prefer to be nice to the buyer’s agent you’re about to reject, you can give a plausible reason for why you are stopping your home search. You can even suggest that you might reach out to the agent in the future should you resume your search. Be very careful however if you leave these agents a shred of hope as some of them can be very persistent. You want to make sure they understand that you absolutely do not want to see any more listing ideas nor do you want to be added to any mailing lists.
Here is an example of a nice, long winded email to terminate a relationship with a buyer’s agent:
These places are beautiful. Love the Cobble hill, Carroll Gardens and East Village apartments. However we have so much going on here with baby due soon and my husband changing jobs that we’ve decided we want to put our search on hold for now and pick up again in the fall. How does that sound? Would love to work with you then.
Here is another example of a heartfelt letter where the buyer truly felt bad about terminating the relationship as the buyer’s agent had done a substantive amount of work already:
Good evening Mark,
Nice to hear from you. I am still plugging away trying to find Dana that needle in hay stack unicorn apartment that will convince her to move. I am not sure I’ll ever find it or will be able to go much farther in the quest. We’re currently looking to see if we can go see the apartment on West 77th Street, provided we can find a workaround to what Larry the seller’s Realtor says it’s a 40 pound pet weight limit. Our dog Mimi weighs 50 pounds. Waiting to hear back from him and will let you know if we ever get to the point of putting in another offer.
Speaking of offers, with regard to the apartment we saw on East 75th Street, as much as it pains me to say, Dana found the kitchen too small and with not enough cabinets to make it work. We also had a serious lack of light issue with no real solutions. If it was just about the price, we would be writing the contract up tomorrow. Please thank George for reaching out to us but it was never about the money on this one.
I have only known Dana for the better part of 48 years, but I have the sinking feeling that, deep down inside, she doesn’t really want to move and I’ll be damn if I force her to move after she followed me around the world for over 30 years in the Army and moved 25 times! It’s 100% her call, so that is that, my friends.
We still think the world of you guys and hope we can give you the business, no pun intended. 🙂
This, on top of everything else, is more than even I can take. If I ever take up this foolhardy house search again, you’ll be the first to know. Thanks for everything, live well, and prosper. Jorge.
You may not want to be so brutal, but here’s an example of just how much flexibility you can have in firing your real estate buyer’s agent.
Robert was a real estate agent who had already seen a few properties with Megan, whom he had met twice. Megan was friendly at the meeting but there was something about Robert that Megan just did not like. As a result, Megan stopped responding to the listing ideas that Robert continued to show her.
Robert suggested a time that he knew Megan was available to see a new listing that fit Megan perfectly. Megan didn’t respond but Robert showed up anyway.
What resulted was very awkward as Megan also showed up with 2 other people. One was a friend and the other was a new buyer’s agent. Megan told Robert curtly as he approached to give her a minute to finish her conversation. After she was done speaking with her entourage, Megan walked away without saying a word to Robert or even looking back at him.
Robert sent Megan an email after this event saying that he would still love to be her agent but has not since heard back.
This story is extremely brutal, and while we do not recommend being this harsh in firing your real estate agent, it illustrates that the power is in your hands in terms of determining who to work with.